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How I became a ninja

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(I found this on google, it is by fadedwhispers on deviant art

 

Last week I became a “ninja looter” and it was entirely by accident.  Now, don’t get me wrong, I know that there’s “no such thing as ninja looting in wow”, but I did roll need on an off-spec item a spec I don’t currently have even.  Normally, I wouldn’t ever do this outside of a guild group when no one else could use the item.  We were in Brew Fest and I rolled need on the pickled egg (which is a healing trinket) while we had a pug healer in the group.

Wait now, let me explain WHY I committed this travesty.  Previously we had been in there with Braelyan and we had a pug player and the egg was looted, and she got it without anyone else being offered a roll.  So, from that experience, we guessed that it must be smart looting the items if only one person in the group qualified for the item.  It was the only time we had seen the egg this year, so it never came up again.  Last night, we were running our lock through to get him the pocket watch and it dropped again, and I was offered a roll.  So I rolled need.  Previous experience showed that if the healer needed it, we would not get a roll.  See my reasoning for rolling need on offspec now?

At this point, if at any time the healer had ASKED me for the trinket, I would have gladly traded it back to them.  *Shrugs* I hate having my loot rolled on by someone else when I need the item but usually I keep it to mumble or twitter grumbling.  However, the healer immediately started freaking the hell out and having a tantrum.  Therefore, instead, I dropped group.  I will not give into tantrums or demands for loot that I did not intend to steal from a healer.  Blizzard gave me the opportunity to roll after previously showing me that I could not roll if the healer needed the item.

Am I sorry that I won the loot from the healer?  Yes, I am.  Because I’m not an insensitive asshole with double standards; yep, I get upset when I lose main spec gear to off-spec persons, though I don’t make a big deal out of it.  However, I am not sorry that I did not give in to the tantrum and entitled behavior of the healer in question.  Whoever you were, I am sorry that you did not get the loot, but behaving like a two year old and berating people over it, is not the way to get it back.  Next time, try asking nicely, at least at first.  Not everyone is an asshole, but acting like one yourself does not change the results.

Guild Leader Perspective: Burning Bridges

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As a guild leader, which isn’t the easiest hat to wear in the first place, you have to deal with the majority of the player relations too.  But what do you do when you have a player who suddenly G-quits?  Well, for our guild, we tend to treat this as a burned bridge.  By that, I mean, they’ve decided to leave and we aren’t going to go follow and beg them to reconsider.

Usually, when you look at the situation as a whole, the person had an unresolved issue, but didn’t come to the proper person with it, or didn’t want to hear the explanation.  Sometimes it’s suspected that they are using the unresolved issue as an excuse to jump ship.  Other times, it’s truly miss-communication at it’s finest.  The person who left may have taken something out of context, or felt like they weren’t being valued.

How do you fix this?  For the most part, you can’t fix how other people perceive things.  You can try to explain it in a different way, but sometimes the feelings have already settled in.  Having a guild charter helps, because you can clarify a policy if it was unclear, and direct the person to the policy if they feel you aren’t being fair.

Some people will still find that a /gquit is their only option to be heard.  This is problematic though, because at this point, burned bridges leave the impression of drama.  I see an out of the blue, unexplained gquit as a dramatic answer to a simple problem, and as such, it leaves me to believe that the person who left will continue to be dramatic if they come back.  Sort of like the kid who threatens to run away because mom makes him eat his peas.  This kid isn’t going to change his attitude about the peas, he just wants his mommy back.

If the person is leaving the guild and comes to us though, and leaves on a good note, usually they are welcomed back if they decide to rejoin at a later time.  Situations change, some people will want to be more hardcore than we are, some will want to be more casual than we are, and others, just may want to try a different server/faction/guild with their friends.  The bottom line is, if you’re going to leave, leave on a GOOD note.

How does your guild handle burned bridges?